Perfectionism… The Unreachable Goal
This week we share a great article about the long term effects of the pursuit of perfectionism. In a culture that leads our teens to believe they have to be “all that,” it becomes imperative that we as adults offer healthy perspective. Kenneth Ginsburg, M.D., who writes an ongoing column in Psychology Today on raising resilient children and teens, redirects us to what is really important for our daughters to strive for and value.
The Toxic Race to Perfection is Damaging Our Teens
The race to perfection is having a toxic impact on this generation and therefore our future. The article "Super People" by James Atlas (New York Times 10/2/11) describes the distorted reality that our young people must measure themselves against. There is an increasingly prevalent myth that unless you are perfect you are destined for mediocrity at best.” To read the entire article, click here.
College Panel for Juniors and Seniors: January 6, 2015
On January 6, juniors and seniors will have the opportunity to meet with recent alumnae to hear about their transition to college and their experiences. During fourth period, all juniors will hear from a group of seniors who will answer questions specifically related to the college process. During fifth and sixth periods, juniors and seniors can sign up for two of the four sessions (Highly Selective Colleges and Universities, Public In State Colleges and Universities, Public Out of State Colleges and Universities, and Private Colleges and Universities). Students have until December 12th to register for a session. Otherwise, your daughter will be assigned a session. In addition to listening to our panelists, students can select questions they would like the panelists to answer or submit questions to be asked. For more information about College Panel, please visit the website.
Junior Group Guidance Recap
The college counselors were in your junior daughter’s History classes this past Thursday to discuss starting the college process. We walked your daughters through the different areas of Naviance they should begin familiarizing themselves with and had them complete a short survey to get their minds thinking about what they may want in a college atmosphere. We also shared the many ways in which we communicate college related information, IE: the Counseling Website, Emails, Tuesday Tidbits, and much more. It is imperative that your daughters are reading the information being disseminated by the office, especially over the next year and a half!
In addition to college information we reminded your daughters to register for the March SAT and April ACT if they have not done so already. We emphasized the importance of early registration so you can secure your preferred testing site! St. Agnes will be a March test site for the SAT and Strake Jesuit will be an April test site for the ACT. We will also be hosting one day preparation seminars given by Sycamore Learning at St. Agnes for both the SAT and ACT, more details to come as the spring semester approaches.
We began junior meetings in mid-October but will once again meet with your daughters in early spring for their first “official” college meeting. During group guidance we spoke to them about adding 5 colleges in their “Colleges I’m Thinking About” tab in Naviance. This by no means limits the conversation but is really a starting point for your daughter. We will work with your daughter to create a balanced and well thought out list over the course of the next several months. We will begin our college meetings with your daughters in late January. You can access the Group Guidance presentation here.
Test Prep Opportunity for the Class of 2016
We are including a flyer for two test prep opportunities to be hosted by St. Agnes Academy for our junior students. We have scheduled one Sunday seminar for the SAT on January 25th and another seminar for the ACT on February 8th.
The reason that we entered into this partnership with Sycamore Learning Company over ten years ago is that many of our students do not have the time or the financial resources to do a full prep program. These one day seminars are designed to show students exactly what types of questions they will see on the tests and then offer specific strategies that will help them in preparation for the test and on test day.
We are intentional when scheduling these seminars. Our department believes that our juniors should take the March 19th SAT and the April 18th ACT. The further our students can go in their junior curriculum, the better the potential for strong test scores. We do not believe any of our juniors should be taking the February ACT so we scheduled that seminar for the Sunday following the February ACT test date.
The Sycamore Learning Company includes in the workshop are 18 practice tests as well as a study guide which highlights strategies on each section and provides answers with explanations for all of the practice tests. Your cost is $79 for the each of the workshops or $150 if you register for both. More information and registration can be found at their website: www.prepforthefuture.com
Grieving is hard any time of year, but grieving can be particularly difficult during the holiday season. We know that it is extremely painful to sit around the table at Thanksgiving when there is an empty chair filled with memories of joy and laughter along with deep regrets. Navigating through the holidays while trying to hold in the feelings surrounding the loss of a loved one can show up in our daughters in many ways like withdrawal, irritability, or depression.
At the Center for Wellness, we are here for your family during this time, and we would like to partner with you in providing your daughter with a place where she can express her emotions while learning coping skills to help her as she grieves for her lost loved one. We will be beginning an eight week group to help students work through their grief on Thursday, December 4. The group will break over the Christmas holidays, and then we will resume meeting in order to process the holidays without a loved one and life in general after loss.
If your immediate family has experienced the loss of a loved one recently and you feel your daughter could benefit from attending this group, please encourage her to consider joining us on Thursdays. Information about the group and permission slips were emailed out to your daughter earlier this week.